As the name indicates the toastmaster is "the master of the toast", but he or she is so much more than that. Therefore the choise of the toastmaster is not to be taken easily.
It is an honor to be chosen toastmaster, and a quality toastmaster will see it as such. But it is also a job.
Depending on the wedding, the toastmaster already starts his or hers job in the church making sure that everybody is well seated. Hence forth he leads the party all the way to the wedding dance.
Mostly the toastmaster is only active during the dinner, presenting speakers, being in contact with the kitchen and keeping track of the deadline. This sounds quite simple, but a wedding is not a train station. Everything must be delivered with charm and humour. The good toastmaster is jolly, has an easy approach and is comfortable and maybe used to speaking at large assemblies. It is the toastmaster's job to make sure the party is active and fun. Nobody is to be bored. The toastmaster must lighten the mood, tell jokes, toast and maybe sing a song if necessary. But seldom this is the case! The perfect person for the job is not a stand up comedian and not a logistic trainee, but something in between. The keyword is smooth.
When it comes down to it, today's toastmaster's job is to make the wedding day go smoothly. He is to make sure that the bride and groom can relax and enjoy their day. Therefore it is a good idea to establish a contract between your wedding planner and the toastmaster at an early stage.
And for the toastmaster here are som tips:
- Do not get to drunk.
- Stick to your schedule, and only add newcomers if you are absolutely sure you have the time. It is okay to say no to last minute speakers.
- Due to the problem mentioned above it is a good idea to name the toastmaster in the invitation.
- Remember that there is a speach hierarchy. Close family is more entitled than periphere friends. There is only a small amount of time, so it can be necessary to say no to someone. You must decide who are close and who are not that close.
- Make sure you are certain about the names and relations of the speakers.
- There is a speach line tradition. Ask the bride and groom if it is to be honoured.
- In fact make sure that you and the bride and groom agree on what type of wedding they want. Formal or informal?
- Remember that you are to give the last speach.
- And last but not least - By all means make sure that the wedding dance is held before midnight. Otherwise it means bad luck, and it would be your fault!